TriAptitude Coaching

This. This right here. Yes, this. Click this link. Watch it.  I am constantly inspired by the women around me (and the men too!) but when you have someone brave enough to bare her or himself to the public and risk being vulnerable…..courageous enough to say, “Hey, I am a work in progress….I may always be.  But, each day I better understand myself, my worth, my confidence, my love, my capabilities.”, well, then you have something truly fabulous.  It is something worth sharing in the hopes of inspiring others to better appreciate who they are and the efforts they are making to make themselves the best they can be.  In a time of social media and the perception of perfection in life, it is always the honest and sometimes painful posts which are the most resounding.  They scream the truth and make you feel like you are not alone, that others in the world struggle, make hard decisions, grow through pain, accomplish amazing things because they have worked their asses off for years and years and years.  This. Love it.

I was riding with a close friend today and we were chatting about her teenage daughter. As I was listening to her words- her worry- I reflected back onto my own angst at the same age.  I remember the confusion and sadness and the loneliness and the rebellion.  The feelings that no one fully understood me – not because I did not have people in my life who loved me and longed to be a bigger part of my life – no, because I did not know or want or thought I needed those close bonds.  Who. Am. I??  I didn’t know!!

I would ask myself that question continuously through the years and each year I began to identify things a little more precisely.  There were sad and lonely times, there were wonderful and happy times.  There were times when I felt worthless. There were moments when I felt unstoppable.  Who. Am. I? What do I stand for?

This post could go on and on and on.  The journey of self-discovery is an ongoing one and for me it has lasted 47 years so far.  But, I have to say that the past 15 years have been the ones which have solidified for me all of the value and strength and courage and confidence and love that I have in my life.  I love this video because it personifies what it means to create a beautiful sense of self through experience.  And, not just the happy celebrations of life- we are talking about the struggles, the angst, the times you are knocked to the floor and debate whether or not you are going to get up at all.  I have had more of those moments than I care to recall.  I have had times when I felt completely worthless, insecure, anxious, scared, heartbroken- the moments when you think the pain is never going to stop.  But, I have also had the moments when I have fought through those feelings and created a more positive sense of self- I dug deep and I kept moving forward with the belief that I am loved and valued and strong and brave.  And, as the years went on, and as I created a life for myself based on these beliefs and surrounded myself with the people who encouraged those beliefs, I began to really understand. Who. Am. I? I know who I am.  I know what I stand for. I know what I believe in. I know the difference I want to make in this world.  And, I know the love I want to give to those around me.  And, I am sure that as the years go on, I will continue to define my sense of self and all the wonderful things which will grow from the experiences to which I have to look forward.

Please do not ever give up on yourself.  There will be moments when you feel like you can not take another step forward.  Believe in yourself.  Know that you have a journey in this life which is incredible – it may be painful at times, sure, but it leads you to better places if you allow it.  Reach out to those who love you and ask for help if you need it.  Tell people in your life how much they mean to you.  Wrap your arms around your children and make sure that they know that they are loved.  I promise you, there will come a day when they will walk into the kitchen and do the same for you.  And, if you don’t have children, there are so many special people in your life who do the same for you!  And, of course, always always always give that same love to yourself.  Who. Are. You?  Enjoy the discovery of self and please share those moments.

Have a great week, friends!

CMC